Wednesday, 30 August 2017
The Transition - life update
So I've been away for a little while getting used to this world called "Adulthood" and I'll tell you what.. not all that glitters is gold. My experience of "adulting" and becoming a young adult has been a major roller coaster of emotions and has also felt like I've been on a high speed train going at 100 mph.
A couple of months ago I finished my degree at university. This was one of the best feelings as I was finally able to accomplish everything I've dreamt off in my education life and see it manifest. However, even though the past three years contributed heavily to my life and gave me the opportunity to meet the most incredible people. I was very eager to close that chapter as I drew closer to the end of my final year. I was extremely excited to move on to my new life, the new glamorous young professional lifestyle which I had imagined it to be.
However even though I was filled with so much excitement and joy about the next phase of my life, I didn't anticipate that I would find the transitioning process extremely difficult. I definitely underestimated that I was undergoing a major life change as I went straight into work only a few days after graduating. This transition process has been challenging and I think being in a new routine also contributed to it. The sound of my alarm greeted me every morning in the early hours, then going to face the hustle and bustle of the London underground , being in an intense environment for about 9 hours a day then going back home wondering where all your time has gone because its time to start getting ready for bed and begin the cycle again. Its safe to say when you have a few of those days repeatedly and being a fresh graduate it can get slightly overwhelming. Anyone else who understands what I am talking about can agree with me that moving into a new routine and moving back into your old home with your parents which is supposed to feel familiar but can feel more alien in some ways.
It's only been two months since I started work and around the third week I felt I was loosing a lot of zeal and found that I was living life but letting it pass me by. I'm not sure if anyone can relate to when you are extremely busy, you forget about actually enjoying life and I was starting to place my happiness on the second shelf. We can often feel frustrated with the process of change in our lives and our body goes into resistance mode in order to protect us from going through it. I recognised the importance of slowing down and validating my feelings in order to become more present and susceptible to my change .
Here are a few things that I changed in order to feel more present.
Being more aware
Being aware of your self and of what was going on is really helpful. Understanding how you feel and what emotions you are going through are really important to help you deal with the situation.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
Take things one step at a time with yourself. I know I am very self critical of myself and beat myself up because of the pressure I put on myself to succeed and do things well. But during this time of change it's so important to allow yourself to be apart of the process , you are learning and growing everyday and it's okay to make mistakes.
Talking to people in similar situations.
I found it really useful to speak to people who
were going through similar life changes as well as me. Only after speaking to someone who was in a simmilar situation as myself did I realise it was totally normal to feel different when undergoing new life transitions.
I hope that anyone experiencing any new life changes in any form, perhaps at work or moving to university is encouraged by this post in some way. Remember to be grateful for the change in your life because it will be a lesson which is always a blessing.
"The secret to change is to focus all your energy on not fighting the old but building the new"
A couple of months ago I finished my degree at university. This was one of the best feelings as I was finally able to accomplish everything I've dreamt off in my education life and see it manifest. However, even though the past three years contributed heavily to my life and gave me the opportunity to meet the most incredible people. I was very eager to close that chapter as I drew closer to the end of my final year. I was extremely excited to move on to my new life, the new glamorous young professional lifestyle which I had imagined it to be.
However even though I was filled with so much excitement and joy about the next phase of my life, I didn't anticipate that I would find the transitioning process extremely difficult. I definitely underestimated that I was undergoing a major life change as I went straight into work only a few days after graduating. This transition process has been challenging and I think being in a new routine also contributed to it. The sound of my alarm greeted me every morning in the early hours, then going to face the hustle and bustle of the London underground , being in an intense environment for about 9 hours a day then going back home wondering where all your time has gone because its time to start getting ready for bed and begin the cycle again. Its safe to say when you have a few of those days repeatedly and being a fresh graduate it can get slightly overwhelming. Anyone else who understands what I am talking about can agree with me that moving into a new routine and moving back into your old home with your parents which is supposed to feel familiar but can feel more alien in some ways.
It's only been two months since I started work and around the third week I felt I was loosing a lot of zeal and found that I was living life but letting it pass me by. I'm not sure if anyone can relate to when you are extremely busy, you forget about actually enjoying life and I was starting to place my happiness on the second shelf. We can often feel frustrated with the process of change in our lives and our body goes into resistance mode in order to protect us from going through it. I recognised the importance of slowing down and validating my feelings in order to become more present and susceptible to my change .
Here are a few things that I changed in order to feel more present.
Being more aware
Being aware of your self and of what was going on is really helpful. Understanding how you feel and what emotions you are going through are really important to help you deal with the situation.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
Take things one step at a time with yourself. I know I am very self critical of myself and beat myself up because of the pressure I put on myself to succeed and do things well. But during this time of change it's so important to allow yourself to be apart of the process , you are learning and growing everyday and it's okay to make mistakes.
Talking to people in similar situations.
I found it really useful to speak to people who
were going through similar life changes as well as me. Only after speaking to someone who was in a simmilar situation as myself did I realise it was totally normal to feel different when undergoing new life transitions.
I hope that anyone experiencing any new life changes in any form, perhaps at work or moving to university is encouraged by this post in some way. Remember to be grateful for the change in your life because it will be a lesson which is always a blessing.
"The secret to change is to focus all your energy on not fighting the old but building the new"
Thursday, 29 June 2017
Detox Time
Hello friends,
I deeply apologise for the disappearing acts that I have been pulling on you guys, but I also want to say thank you everyone for being forever patient with me. The month of June has been very hectic as you guys know from my previous post that I was completing my final exams for university, following from that I moved back home with my family, went on holiday and then turned 21. So I experienced a whirlwind of events one after the other. When I go through these busy times I feel like its very important to be able to detox.
Detoxing is eradicating yourself from any impurities and toxins within your body. As well as toxins formed in your body there may be toxicity within our life situations. For example, toxic relationships or thought patterns that may be disrupting your self - esteem or drive to make good choices. My decision to detox usually results from feeling overworked and when my body becomes physically tired.
Here are a few PHYSICAL ways to detox your body
Here are some mindful prompts to help detox your mind ( grab a piece of paper)
- Who/ What brings you joy?
- Who/What drags you down?
Well done you have identified what is toxic in your life and the positive aspects
-List what you find uplifting and how much time you are providing for it
-Now list what sucks your energy and how much time you are providing for it.
Evaluate where your energy is flowing to and reshape and revaluate where you would like it to go
Detoxing allows us to make space for other things that fulfil you, it is very important to make time for your mind and your body. Remember to make space in order to recreate. You are your own best friend so take charge of your life and personal well being,
Lots of love
K x
(p.s Thank you everyone for nearly 10k views on the blog)
I deeply apologise for the disappearing acts that I have been pulling on you guys, but I also want to say thank you everyone for being forever patient with me. The month of June has been very hectic as you guys know from my previous post that I was completing my final exams for university, following from that I moved back home with my family, went on holiday and then turned 21. So I experienced a whirlwind of events one after the other. When I go through these busy times I feel like its very important to be able to detox.
Detoxing is eradicating yourself from any impurities and toxins within your body. As well as toxins formed in your body there may be toxicity within our life situations. For example, toxic relationships or thought patterns that may be disrupting your self - esteem or drive to make good choices. My decision to detox usually results from feeling overworked and when my body becomes physically tired.
Here are a few PHYSICAL ways to detox your body
- Decluttering your space - Currently I am in phase 1 of completing this as I have things absolutely everywhere due to my move back home. I've found that having a cluttered environment affects the way I function and physically removing and getting rid of junk frees up not only my physical space but allows my mind to breathe and function better.
- Digestive cleanse - Eating the right things is so good for your body, making sure you have a balanced diet. Eating greens is a great way to remove cancer causing toxins from your body. Vegetables such as broccoli, cabbage and brussel sprouts help to clear out excess estrogens.
- Herbal teas - I think we all know the implications of herbal teas and the impact they have on detoxing and cleansing the body
- Disconnecting from social media - Its important to control what flows in and out of your mind and into your zone. Breaks from social media are encouraged to break away from a lot of craziness that these social media bubbles create.
Here are some mindful prompts to help detox your mind ( grab a piece of paper)
- Who/ What brings you joy?
- Who/What drags you down?
Well done you have identified what is toxic in your life and the positive aspects
-List what you find uplifting and how much time you are providing for it
-Now list what sucks your energy and how much time you are providing for it.
Evaluate where your energy is flowing to and reshape and revaluate where you would like it to go
Detoxing allows us to make space for other things that fulfil you, it is very important to make time for your mind and your body. Remember to make space in order to recreate. You are your own best friend so take charge of your life and personal well being,
Lots of love
K x
(p.s Thank you everyone for nearly 10k views on the blog)
Tuesday, 16 May 2017
Life Hack : Eat the Frog
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Wednesday, 10 May 2017
The Last Hurdle
This goes out to anybody who is in their final year of university like myself, anyone who is studying for their last set of exams before summer, anyone who may be facing any particular life hurdle.
This goes out to every single individual running their race
When the end of something draws near it can feel almost as if the time period you are in has been set to slow motion. You begin to loose sight of the end, the finish line starts to get blurry, you may start to second guess yourself or even your surroundings. This is the point where some of us may start to lack energy, giving your 0.0005% instead of exerting your entire being to the matter at hand. Finding that motivation, can be extremely difficult in a time period such as this. As it almost feels as if you have exhausted all your motivational focal points, and at this stage you can't even pin point why you started running in the first place.
I just want to stop you there sis/bro, here are some active tips I want to give you for the final step
1.You need to run your race with victory
Complete your tasks with the end in mind, running with the mindset that you have already won. Portraying an attitude of victory sends out vibrations of victories into the atmosphere. By placing faith in your actions it will enable God to put in place what already belongs to you in the beginning. Adjusting our mindset is important and as always is the first step in most situations. It is mind over matter and sometimes you may need to even say a few things to yourself such as;
2. Stop focusing on how stressed you are and fixate yourself on the present.
When you are so full of various problems we leave our selves with no room for anything new to enter our minds, no room for solution. Your life situation may be very stressful and filled with a lot of problems right now, but do you have any problems right now in this moment ? the answer is no, right now is the present. You have all the power to choose what you feed your attention to. Problems are mind made and need time to survive, they cannot survive in the actual 'now'. So choose what you fixate on wisely.
3. Getting rid of complacency
Complacency is the one thing in between you and the finish line which can prevent you from being great. If you want to be successful you will make productivity a habit, you will push yourself to achieve those goals because they are attainable. Eradicating complacency will give you the momentum to clear any hurdles in your way and push to victory.
Just remember; "life's hurdles wouldn't be called hurdles if there wasn't any way we could get over them."
K x
I just want to stop you there sis/bro, here are some active tips I want to give you for the final step
1.You need to run your race with victory
Complete your tasks with the end in mind, running with the mindset that you have already won. Portraying an attitude of victory sends out vibrations of victories into the atmosphere. By placing faith in your actions it will enable God to put in place what already belongs to you in the beginning. Adjusting our mindset is important and as always is the first step in most situations. It is mind over matter and sometimes you may need to even say a few things to yourself such as;
"I am a conquer "
"I am = strong'
"I can do anything"
"I am more than able"
Speaking words to yourself will subconsciously change your belief and push you to a mindset of victory.2. Stop focusing on how stressed you are and fixate yourself on the present.
When you are so full of various problems we leave our selves with no room for anything new to enter our minds, no room for solution. Your life situation may be very stressful and filled with a lot of problems right now, but do you have any problems right now in this moment ? the answer is no, right now is the present. You have all the power to choose what you feed your attention to. Problems are mind made and need time to survive, they cannot survive in the actual 'now'. So choose what you fixate on wisely.
3. Getting rid of complacency
Complacency is the one thing in between you and the finish line which can prevent you from being great. If you want to be successful you will make productivity a habit, you will push yourself to achieve those goals because they are attainable. Eradicating complacency will give you the momentum to clear any hurdles in your way and push to victory.
Just remember; "life's hurdles wouldn't be called hurdles if there wasn't any way we could get over them."
K x
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