Who Defines Beauty - GUEST POST by Tobi Sobowale

Who Defines Beauty?


To put it very simply, you do. Not anyone else. After all, they do say, beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. And as cliche as it may sound, it is definitely correct. Who is anyone to tell you that you are not beautiful, who are they? They are definitely not God. So why do we care so much about the opinion of others?

The other day my friend complimented a girl saying “she does not need makeup”. He then went on to make a statement that "well ... no girl needs make up”. I didn't say anything but in my head I thought, he only made the second statement because he realised how off the first statement sounded. I understand that he was just complimenting the girl, suggesting she is a natural beauty. However, why couldn't he just have just said that? It really does annoy me that people have this idea that some girls need to wear makeup. A lot of us girls will say, ‘I don't care what people think,' ‘who cares about their opinion,' ‘I know I’m beautiful’. But let’s be honest, many of us may feel like we have to wear makeup to feel beautiful and conceal ourselves due to not recognising our own natural beauty.

Ive had acne for the past 10 years and now at the age of 21, my skin has started to clear up. However over the past 5 years, I used makeup to conceal this and it became a mask for me. I didn't feel comfortable without it and wouldn't leave my house without it. I’m at a stage now where this is no longer the case, thank God. But at the time when my friend made his comment, my confidence without the use of make up was something I was struggling with. So maybe you understand why I was annoyed by the comment this guy had made. My dream for us all is that we will get to a stage where, if anyone tells you that you don't need make up, tell them ‘thanks but no girl needs make up. We cant let other people dictate their opinions or give their words power over us. It is imperative that we uplift ourselves.

You are beautiful. I am beautiful. And we need to truly start believing this. Whether we have acne, hyper pigmentation, whatever it may be. As women we need to support each other and we have to truly uplift each other so others will truly understand that their opinions do not matter. The only opinion that truly matters is Gods. 

I am wonderfully and fearfully madePsalm 139:14.




Tobi Sobowale
Founder of the YAB Campaign


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